The question always comes eventually doesn’t it, when we meet new people:
“What do you do?”
It’s (for the most part) an easy question that we, as a collective, have decided will tell us all we need to know. Once the answer is revealed, we can then happily place our new friend in the tidy box we think they belong in. A writer for example, may well be put in the ‘a creative so probably slightly depressed and anxious’ box, an accountant in the ‘clever bod with numbers but probably boring’ box, or an IT specialist in the ‘they must be super brainy but I bet they can’t fry an egg’ box.
For a clairvoyant, I have discovered that we are generally placed in one of three distinct boxes that look something like this:
The ‘she’s bonkerdoodles’ box: [Not my fave box truth be told, for reasons that will become obvious.] In this situation, it is a look of distaste that immediately crosses the face of the questioner upon hearing my answer, swiftly followed by confusion. This is because they have often placed me in the ‘she’s normal’ box during initial pleasantries, only to find themselves scrambling for a replacement once they learn of my occupation. Written on the new box they choose is: ‘'She’s bonkerdoodles’.
In their mind, I’m either a) a charlatan making money off the vulnerable, or b), living in deluluville thinking I have the supernatural powers only characters in Marvel films possess. These cherubs believe neither in intuition nor the ability to read energy, so ‘bonkers’ is the only logical box for them to put me in.
Relations often cool at this point, or worse, condescension joins the conversation. An incomer who is no friend of mine. I have never felt the need much less the desire to persuade anyone of anything, (we are all on our own path), so this new visitor is my cue to exit stage left in search of friendlier pastures.
The ‘don’t come near me you’re terrifying’ box: [This one is a testament to the power of fear-mongering] because fear is what immediately sweeps across this questioner’s face. The person commonly thinks, in a nutshell, that just by looking at them I know everything about them, including when they’re going to die. (NB: This has NEVER happened.)
This conclusion is the result of years of programming from the tellybox telling them who or what a clairvoyant is. You know, the classic depiction of a clairvoyant as a wizened 90-year-old spinster who pulls the Lovers, Tower, or Death card out of her deck with bony fingers. Usually, there is a frisson of thunder and rain in the background for that extra bit of bone-chilling ambience. (She’s always wearing a scarf too, why???!).
In my years of existence on this planet, I have yet to see an accurate portrayal of a clairvoyant on any screen, on any device. On the rare occasion that the clairvoyant being presented is a living, breathing, actual person in a documentary, you can bet your Granny’s pension that the television researchers have done their utmost to find the most ‘out there’ person they could possibly find, when most of us are actually pretty mundane.
In these encounters I am quickly jettisoned into the ‘don’t come near me you’re terrifying’ box, which saddens me. If I get the chance, I appease these fears as best I can using my great ally, truth. Sometimes the fear is dissolved, sometimes wariness remains.
The ‘someone who can see’ box: [Ahhhh, these questioners are my faves.] Their initial reaction to my occupation sits somewhere between fascination and intrigue. What follows is a plethora of questions, or even better, anecdotes.
Usually, they have had some kind of supernatural experience themselves and are thrilled to their toes to chat to someone who might know a thing or two about it, having found scant opportunity elsewhere. I too am thrilled to bits and sit happily discussing all manner of spiritual goodies from ghosties to aliens to timeloops and karmic entanglements. Here, I am placed in the ‘someone who can see’ box, into which I will happily skip.
One day though, these boxes will be obsolete.
In my readings, I see a time where clairvoyance is the norm for everyone, much like talking is now. This is because we are all naturally clairvoyant, as we are spiritual beings housed in a temporary flesh suit, and it is this energetic part of us that we access when using clairvoyant skills. Currently, most are simply not as open to it or allowing of it as they have the potential to be. To be fair the odds are stacked against them doing so, for various reasons, but that’s another topic entirely.
With this natural clairvoyance we will have the confidence to dig deeper and desire to really know someone.
In the future, we will ask different questions in place of the standard ‘What do you do?’ model. We will ask: “What is your greatest passion?”, and even better: “What is your greatest fear?”
Now, isn’t that a conversation starter.